We’ve just toured the elaborate, sprawling Meenakshi Temple complex in Madurai, Tamil Nadu, India. Meenakshi is an incarnation of the Hindu goddess Parvati. This temple is unusual in that it is devoted entirely to the female deity, rather than to her male consort, Shiva.
Meenakshi Temple’s towers teem with minutely detailed sculptures and its corridors are emblazoned with bold designs and patterns in a kaleidoscope of colors. Heading back through the outer corridors of the complex we pass numerous stalls overflowing with multi-colored, gold-sprinkled kitsch: statues and figurines of all kinds, scarves, wall-hangings, umbrellas, rainbow-hued framed and unframed drawings of Hindu gods and goddesses, carved boxes, jewelry and more. My partner draws my attention to a small stall containing nothing but floor to ceiling stacks of thin bracelets in every color imaginable; a bangle shop! I haven’t seen a woman or girl in India without several bright, shiny rings of color circling each wrist. I’ve wanted to purchase a few of these ubiquitous adornments as souvenirs for myself and also as gifts for my girlfriends back home. The petite, traditionally-clad shopkeeper and his assistant have watched us stop and look, and they have already sprung into action. Armed with bangles in each hand, they approach as I step over the low curb separating the main corridor from the tiny shop. My partner stays firmly put on the other side. I know by now that I won’t have the luxury of time or space to examine the shelves on my own and then serenely decide on a course of action, as I would back home. But I’ve crossed the threshold now and there’s no turning back.
In an impressively honed, rapid-fire relay, the shopkeeper directs his assistant to pull out specific bangles from the thousands on display. The assistant then whisks them to his boss, who presents them to me for about three seconds each, speedily exchanging them through this same relay – in reverse – until I show enough interest in something to delay the action momentarily. I decide to eliminate items based on color first; no lime green or fiery red for me, thanks. Maybe no lemon yellow, either. As soon as I indicate my disinterest, those particular bangles disappear from the shopkeeper’s hands and replacements in the remaining colors appear in their place. Lovely blues, deep greens, vibrant purples and rich oranges. I nod and murmur my approval. The shopkeeper instantly halts the relay with the assistant. He holds one of the “approved” bangles up to me and points to my hand; we’ve entered a new phase. He starts to slide the bracelet over my fingers and it goes as far as my knuckles and stops. I try contorting my hand into various positions without success. The shopkeeper demonstrates how I should hold my hand, with fingers extended and thumb folded under to create a smaller circumference. I haven’t quite got it, and he grasps my wrist and shakes, trying to release the tension from my hand and fingers. Finally the bangle clears the now red and swollen knuckles of my left hand. The same thing happens with the next several bracelets, until finally one snaps in half as we both try to force it over the hump. I apologize profusely and turn red, feeling like some kind of ham-handed freak.
I try to pantomime that I’d like to pay for the broken bracelet, but the shop-keeper and his assistant have seamlessly shift gears into what I’ll call the “sizing-issue” phase of the transaction. I can’t understand a word they’re saying, but before I know it the shopkeeper’s open palms are laden with a whole new set of approved-color bangles, now apparently in jumbo size. We try again and this time I demonstrate near perfect bracelet-fitting posture. Most of the hard, shiny circles of plastic summit the peaks of my knuckles without incident. I am relieved, wiping the sweat off my face with my free hand and cracking a smile. The shopkeeper and his assistant respond in kind with smiles and gestures of approval. I decide to wear two gold-flecked royal blue bangles out as the assistant carefully wraps the rest in recycled newspaper, the swirls of Tamil script making it just as pretty, and more special, than any pricey gift-wrap.
As I dig around in my change purse for the few rupees that will seal the deal, I feel a personal sense of accomplishment. On the face of it we have completed a simple business transaction, but for me at least, there is more to it than that. On a trip where almost all of my transactions have been mediated through “my man,” handling this one on my own has been a small, but satisfying achievement.
As I step back over the low curb to rejoin my companion, I raise my hand to the two gentlemen in the shop, and my bangles tinkle sweetly in salute.

